By Sabrina (BGV Blogger and Rec Volleyball Player)
I have an older sister who’s 15 now and has been playing volleyball for almost seven years. She started at a local recreational club and played there for years. Coaches and players could see that she was good. Next, she played for her middle school and she started playing club volleyball and got even better. Then last year she started playing as a freshman at high school for her JV team (before the end of the season she was playing varsity).
This year, she’s the only sophomore on varsity and she plays a LOT because she’s really good.
But my sister may be a little too good and here are a few reasons why:
- My mom and sister can talk for hours and hours and hours about volleyball (even though my mom has never played the sport)
- Because she plays both school and club, I think she gets a lot of attention and we put of lot of time into it (even though my brother and I play other sports)
- Volleyball games and tournaments can take priority over other things (practices, friend’s birthday parties, etc.)
- And those tournaments and games mean early mornings and late nights (sometimes I can’t watch my favorite shows)
- Because she’s playing varsity in high school sometimes we have to sit through HOURS of games (five sets sometimes)
That said, I am proud of my sister and here are some things I appreciate about her being SO good:
- I get to support her/her teams and cheer them on
- Soccer is my main sport, but I play volleyball too and I learn a lot from her and from watching her play
- Because she’s plays club we get to visit cool places and stay in nice hotels with pools and hot tubs and nice people who give us candy and ice cream socials, etc.
- We also get to spend time as a family – we laugh and have fun (and we’re there for her when things don’t go so well during games)
- She’s really good so she plays a lot and it’s always fun just seeing her do so well
Even though it can be a struggle, I know soon she may be off to college, hopefully playing volleyball and I won’t be
able to see her all of the time so I’m going to enjoy this time right now. Love you, Teia!
By Teia (BGV Blogger and High School/Club Volleyball Player)
I’ve been playing volleyball for almost seven years – playing rec, school and club. During my freshman year, I made my JV team and before the end of the season they brought me up to the varsity team.
This summer, I thought about tryouts a lot and was excited because I thought I had a good chance of making varsity again. Our tryouts were three days long and on the third day I found out that I made the varsity team again. I was so happy!
We started playing games and as the season progressed I started to have some challenges. I really liked the idea of playing with the “best of the best” at my school, but being an underclassman on varsity isn’t as easy as one might think.
- Most of the girls on the team have already played together before. They have already gelled together and an underclassman is coming in new.
- Coaches may take it easier on younger players. This might have an effect on the younger players’ development.
- A younger player coming in with the same skill level as an upperclassman can be interesting to say the least.
- You aren’t always heard and listened to. Not heard because other people can’t understand your challenges…they only think it has to be great playing varsity. Not listened to by fellow players, coaches and managers.
- The age difference can take a toll in a lot of ways. Friends your age may be on the freshman and JV teams and you may not be able to talk and hang out with them as much. Also as a sophomore you’re still figuring out how to balance being a student-athlete; most upperclassmen have figured that out.
- Because you’re young everyone assumes you don’t know as much or that you don’t understand.
But, there are good points too:
- I get a lot of encouragement from players and coaches.
- I get a lot of support from my teachers who understand I’m playing this sport at a higher level; teachers get excited and come to see me play.
- I’m playing against teams with older, more experienced players and that helps me become a stronger player.
- Having come on varsity as a freshman, if I continue to play, I’ll definitely build my leadership skills by the time I’m a senior.
Being an underclassman on varsity is not all that it seems, but if you’re made the offer you should take it. This might be a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for you so DO IT!
By Tee (BGV Blogger and Multi-Sport/Multi-Kid Mom)
So, I realize this site and blog is geared toward volleyball parents and players; by now you can see my plate is pretty full with just my oldest playing competitive school and club volleyball, but that’s just a fraction of my life. I’m actually a working mom of THREE kids – my oldest plays volleyball (for now, she’s looking like she could be a pretty good tennis player too); my youngest daughter plays recreational soccer and volleyball (with dreams of playing travel soccer) and then my youngest kid plays recreational soccer and basketball (who knows what he’ll hone in on…he’s only eight!)
And I do this as a divorced mom; my ex-husband doesn’t live in the area so I can’t exactly divide and conquer. I have an awesome support system of friends and my mom, but I rarely pull them into my madness because candidly, I feel like I signed up for this, not them.
So you can imagine, I’m constantly on the go and almost every week I have a conflict. When we started club volleyball, there would be weeks when I would cry because I didn’t know if I was coming or going. But as I learn tomanage this “multi-kid, multi-sport” thing, I’m finding things a little easier than they were two years ago. I will never have this perfected and people may even judge the decisions I make and why…heck, I even wonder at times! A few things I keep in mind to keep my sanity:
- Life isn’t going to be fair all of the time. I think my biggest struggle is the time we invest in volleyball-related “stuff” over other things. Club in particular is a commitment of money, real dollars and with that sometimes a club volleyball game will trump a recreational basketball game for another kid. That said its instances like this when I ask for help from my support squad, but there are still very rare occasions when things can’t be helped. I’m doing a better job of not beating myself up when we can’t make everything all of the time.
- Everyone is getting older! And thank goodness! Two years ago, I couldn’t imagine leaving my younger daughter at a practice to take my oldest to a school game so I would literally drive across town twice over. Now, my younger daughter is more responsible, I have a great relationship with her coach and it makes life more bearable. I light at the end of the tunnel is a bit brighter (and my oldest will start driving soon and she can help out too!)
- I don’t beat myself up as much. When I can’t make someone’s game for whatever reason, I’ve stopped getting upset about it. I can’t divide my body in thirds to be everything to everyone. I give everyone plenty of notice when there’s a conflict.
- I LOVE watching my kids play! I know everyone believes their kids are pretty good, natural born athletes, etc. but mine really are (lol) and much like I love watching them perform in school plays, play music and sing, I thoroughly enjoy watching them develop in sports. There’s nothing like seeing my oldest make a kill, my younger daughter save a goal or my son block a shot.
And because of this, I do what I do and wouldn’t have it any other way. These years are fleeting…I’m going to enjoy them now (I can rest when I retire!)